Lesson-3 Inter-personal Relationship
(a) Caring the Elders
We Should Devote Our
Quality Time To Our Elders
And Get Their Blessings.
Let's Read A Play About
Respecting Elders.
Play -Break The Ice
Play write: Surender Kumar
There is a drawing room in the house.
Grandmother is playing with her eight- year-old grandson in the room, playing
games and talking...
Romi- Oh... Do Do! Grandma Dodo, I
won, Grandma lost"
Grandmother- "Ok... dear, it is
fine, stop now, I lost and you won... Now let me rest."
Romi-"No no... Grandma, you play
more with me. I just play now... no one plays with me, neither mom nor dad,
they don't bother. If you don't play grandma, then I will be cut off and not
talk to you. Then.... Then "Grandmother - (emotionally)" Son, what
can I do with you to cut you off again?"
Romi-"Grandma, don't do it. Just
tell me what's 'Ominous’?"
Grandmother-"Its unfortunately,
son, carrying bad luck because of whom, there will is a trouble in the house.
Romi-"Grandma you don't love
me?"
Grandmother-"Come on son"
Romi- “Then you can't be ominious,
miserable."
Grandmother-"Yes son I am not..!
"
Soon the grandmother started
coughing. She asked for a glass of water...
Romi-Grandma, what happened? May I
bring water?
Mother-"How many times have you
been told not to sit near this old lady.. you don't know what TB disease you
may catch from her. Go to your room...
Romi-"No, mom... I would like to
stay with grand ma."
Mom-Oh no - I don’t know what magic
did she do on my son? Keep quiet. "Shut up, you start talking in front of
me too.
Romi-I'm sorry to hear that you've
been saying bad things to Grandma all day."
(Papa 'Karanbir' enters in the room)
Papa-"What happened? Why? Why
were you making so much noise?"
Mom-Look, now it is unbearable. You
have to decide about your mother. Otherwise I will go either she or I will stay
at this home... why'? Why don't you speak?"
Papa-"What shall I say? Where
shall I go now? Where can I send my mother?"
Mom-"Now you see it"
Romi-Papa leave it to me. Let mom go
away. The food will be cooked by our Grandma.
Mom-"Look, what has she been
taught to him"
(Grandma is listening to everything
from behind and comes forward and speaks :)
Grandmother-"Son, don't quarrel
with each other.., do not worry, I have listened to you. I'm a burden for you.
I won't bother you anymore... just do me a favour now...leave me in a Vridh
Ashram (old age home)
Mom-Take her... now what are you thinking?
Now she is saying herself... come on now... I will pack your bag.
Grandmother- "OK
daughter-in-law, I shall take my luggage, myself. Leave it.
Romi-"Please. Do n't go.
Grandmother….don't..."
Papa-"Where is the key to my
car?"
Mom-"You don't take the car, I
have to go to the parlour. You take any auto rickshaw etc. please, and what is
in her hand?”
Karan also looks at his grandmother's
hand and asks - Ah!! what?”
Grandmother-"Don't worry. The
registry of this house is on your table.... This is a photo of Romi's
grandfather... He never left me when he was alive... Now I can't leave him
alone in this house."
(Next Scene)
(Sad Romi is sitting in the room of
the house, His mother is forcing him to eat, father enters)
Papa-"It's very hot right now.
It's been a long time... In the car ... I'm not used to going in the auto
rikshaw anymore
Mom-(on phone call)-"Hello, I'm
fine too... I just went to the parlor so couldn't pick the phone... yes
everything is fine... I just wanted to give you some good news... Romi's father
sent his mother to the old age home... You tell, take the medicine, in time,
just do it... yes pls, let me talk to him, surely. Hello bro, take care of my
mom otherwise I will bring here her and will be made attended by my hubby.
Papa-"Please bring a glass of
water... a hard time in the heat. "
Romi-Was it too hot in Auto, Papa?
Papa-"Yes"
Romi-"Did grandma feel it hot
today..?"
Papa-"Oh yes, It is really very
hot today?”
Romi-"Daddy, don't worry, when
you have to be sent to old age home, I'll drop you off in the car, not in the
auto rickshaw, because Daddy, I love you.
(..Humming goes on)
******************
(View of the drawing room six months
later)
Papa-“I got a call from the old age
home. I am going to meet my mother."
Mom-"Let's visit... may be the
last time has come for the old lady... I will accompany you.
Romi-Yes, I will go too, to meet
Grandma.
(Next is the view of the ashram:
Grandmother is lying on the floor and the rest of the family is standing. The
grandson loves her grandmother very much. He has a gift. He has brought a
"home' as a gift.)
Papa-Yes, tell me, why did you invite
me?"
Grandmother –“Son, it seems as my
last time has come. everyone here serves me a lot, they care... with God's
grace everything is ok. son.. You also have everything in your life so much
money, factories, machines, everything... Donate a fan….. It is very hot…..
here... One more thing, the water is very hot. Sometimes too hot to drink. ...
please donate refrigerator also.
Papa-"Just such a thing? You had
to tell me on the phone.. I did everything I would have sent to you earlier…..
That was the only problem you had to face, mother?”
Grandma-"Son, I bear. I
tolerated and will continue to tolerate. but when you will have to come here to
live, you cannot bear, that's why... I'm thinking of those times...
Papa-"What are you saying mom?
(Enters the main official of the
Ashram)
Official-I think, "she is right,
Mr. Karanbir Singh Brar. If I am not mistaken, then your name is Karanbir Singh
Brar, isn't it?"
Karan-"But how do you know me?”
Official-"You don't know, here
we keep not only the elders, but also the children in this ashram... They are
both helpless and orphans. Exactly thirty-five years from now, your father
Hardev Singh Brar had also adopted you from this Ashram and now you are
Karanbir Singh Brar. And the other way around. your mother is also in this
ashram... isn't it a game of nature?"
Papa-Sorry I am... m also, - I ...
its not a game of nature, it's me who played the dirty game... Forgive me, I am
too... (weeping loudly).
Mom-(crying)-"Forgive me Mom. I
forgot that if I have my own mother then you are also someone's mother.
Tomorrow we may have to come here too."
Official-"Mr. Karanbir, It is
not too late, yet. You can take her from this old age home to your home and
keep her with you. Serve her... Go home happily."
Romi-"Let's go home."
(All in happy mood now...just to take
grandmother with them.)
Papa-"This is the kind of
treatment What I want from my children. That is the treatment I should have
given to my parents. "
Mom-The girl living far away from her
mother can call her brother and expects from him to take care of her mother,
then why cannot she ask her husband to take care of his mother?
Romi-"Loving Loving
Grandma"
(Fade out)
EXERCISE
1. What did you feel
after reading this play?
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2. How do you care your
elders?
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3. Which character of
the play, you find the most tolerating person?
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4. Give your opinion
about the characters of the play.
1. Grandmother -………………………………………………………………………………………………..
2. Romi-……………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
3. Mom-……………………………………………………………………………………………………………..
4. Papa-………………………………………………………………………………………………………………
(b) Socially Defined Boundaries of Relationships
Dear Students, there are some social
boundaries about our relations .They tell us to what extent we should keep our
relationships. We are not supposed to violate these limits and boundaries.
These social rules make a set up that is known as a social set up. Our family
or neighbours, school/college teachers, students, friends almost every person
in the world make us realise of the socially well-defined boundaries and
limitations of relationships every stage of life. So we should observe and
follow them with a logical approach. We should not violate such boundary otherwise
we may have to murder any other relationship. So there is a limit which marks a
social grace, as some relations are to be kept at home, on the other hand, some
are limited to our office or any other workplace. Therefore it's not wise to
bring our outer relationships (workplace relationships or professional relations)
to our home and vice versa. Some relations are blood relations which are known
very close to us but it is not always the same. Sometimes, a relation which is
not a blood relation, helps us more and is closer to us than the blood
relations. Sometimes we do not feel safe at our home; so some relations may
cause danger. It varies from relations to relations and person to person. There
is no hard and fast rule about relationships It's not easy to make and go
through the relations. It may be understood by the game. In your childhood, you
must have played this game of touching the alphabets as directed by your
companion without crossing or cutting any line with your pen. So as there was an
alphabet web and the same way here are our relationships. We need to keep our
all relationship alive. And never to cut any one because each relation has its
own importance. So stay secure, keep secure, don't incline to some relations so
much that the door or passage of the other relations might be closed. Now, play
the game. Pick up a pencil (pen, try to touch all the circle from l to 20 in
proper order. No line should be cut.
Try to touch all the numbers
Start/Return
1 4 3 2
Mother Sister Brother Father
19 15 7 17
Teacher Friend Grandfather Neibour
9 20 14 5
Uncle-Aunt Classmate Cousin Grandfather
13 8 10 16
Uncle-Aunt (P) Grand Mother (P) Uncle-Aunt (M) Class
Fellow
6 11 18 12
Grand-Mother (M) Uncle-Aunt (P) Helper Uncle-Aunt (M)
(c) To end up Relationships Constructively
In life, every person lives with many
relationships. Some relations are lifelong but some are to be cut down or some
relations break up with the effect of time and circumstances. So it remains as
a memory, good or bad in any corner of our mind perhaps throughout the life. Some
relations are breakup by ego, fear, anger or social helplessness. Sometimes we
have to go away to start a new life and for this we have to end up our
relationship. Sometimes we feel that we cannot go for a long time with someone
else so we cut our relations. We should end up our relationship very
constructively and with graceful manner.
Activity-1
Suppose, there is a last
practical exam of your tenth class and you have to depart from school and go
far from some people, which you think, you will never meet again in your life,
How will you get separated from your classmates? Please imagine and write down
a few sentences about this.
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Activity-2
Please write down a page
about your school and hand it over to your teacher.
So,
please always get farewell in that way that if you meet that person again in your
life, you need not feel ashamed about it. Always keep in mind these points
while ending up a relationship:
1. Say thanks to the
concerned person memorizing the good time spent with him or her.
2. Never discuss or
remind him/ her about the bad memory.
3. Do not forget to
exchange your contact numbers if you want to keep to be in touch with the
person from whom you are getting separated.
4. If you don't trust
that person or don't want to meet him/ her again or you don't want to keep
contact with him/ her, then please don't get emotional at the time of departure
(separation) and do not share your personal photographs and personal detail
with that person.
5. Don t try have
revengeful attitude on that person.
Respect
Relation Apology Departure
Thanks
Always
keep in mind that the story which you cannot end properly, try to leave it with
a nice turning point.
(d) Attitude and Behavior
Dear students, good attitude and
behaviour polish our personality. How we behave with anyone, How we react and
it all makes Our identity, our personality and our image also. So we need to learn
good behaviour and give up the bad habits For example, fighting, quarreling,
doubting someone; all these are negative attitude. Instead of all this, we need
to live happily Positivity, hardworking, soft-speaking and care are the traits considered
to be the part of good behavior.
Activity-1
Dear students, let us do an activity
in the classroom. You have to write down on your work sheet here. Which type of
behaviour is correct?
Situation-1 You are going on the road. in front of you, a boy is a eating
banana and he throws the banana peel on the road, then what will be your reaction?
1. You will try to
persuade the boy.
2. You will call
someone else to pick up the banana peel.
3. You will yourself
pick up the banana peel and throw it in the dust bin.
4. You will call the
police and complain the boy.
Situation-2 Your friends gifted an empty chalk box on your
birthday. The box is totally empty. What will be your reaction '?
1. You will stop
talking to them.
2. You'll look at them
and smile.
3. You will ignore
them.
4. You'll see in anger
towards them.
Divide
yourself in various groups: Take certain
'situations'. Chose one from the right patterns of behaviour and one from the
wrong patterns of behaviour. Act it in front of the whole class and discuss
about it which behaviour is the right one.
Conclusion
It's not good to avoid
suggestion or try to stay away from the situation and problem. Never react but
act with wisdom, Try to do good even with the bad. Never blame others but
display your good attitude.
Teacher's Remarks
