Lesson-4 Empathy
(a) Gender-sensitivity
Understand, if you want to treat
everyone in a fairly, respectful manner. We should have the quality of
sensitivity. We all have to look at it with love and respect, with the eyes of
equality. So boys and girls - men and women have to treat each other fairly
with respect and equality. In this way, the meaning of the word pain' is
limited - one's own pain. In the same way the meaning of ‘sympathy' is - to
understand the collective pain of all.
If we look at our home, siblings
often complain that their parents treat their sisters and brothers better than
they. Even at school, boys often complain about why girls are being monitor of
class?
So issues like this are really an
indication of our lack of gender sensitivity. Let's be sensitive in this
regard, for which we will make some deviations. Al the children write the names
of the tasks you do, on this worksheet.
Q.1. What tasks your
mother also does?
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Q.2. What are the
tasks, both of your parents do?
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Q.3. What homework activities
will you share with your mother?
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Q.4. How many homework
activities Will you share with your spouse?
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Look
at the children, it is not necessary for the girls to help their mothers and
the boys to help their fathers in his work. In fact, both of you now have to
help your parents in their daily chores.
Activity-1
You will plant a garden
or plant in your home. In this project, the girls also need to help their
fathers in gardening.
Actually nature has not divided any
work to be done by boys or girls, only. It makes no discrimination on basis of
gender. So we have to change our outlook about it, so that boys and girls can
achieve their maximum.
(b) Expressing Needs and Desires
Dear students, needs and desires are very important in our life but they should not
exceed their limits. They should not be so too many that it will be difficult
to live a simple life within our means. Desires should be kept in a social
boundary. Food, clothes and home are basic necessities, in the same way a good
lifestyle is also of same importance. Let us see, of which type our needs and
desires are? Whether they are limited or they are much more and exceeding all
means and sources? Are they teasing our parents or not?
Activity-1
After one year, which
type of facilities and how many do you want to have?
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Activity-2
Look at the picture, here are total
ten things. Out of these, which thing is enough to fulfil our many needs and do
the work of other nine facilities?
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Right the right answer
on your worksheet
Conclusion
We can fulfil our basic needs even
with ths minimum expenditure and less means of income and other sources. We
should minimize the number of our desires but not the level of desires and
needs. So our desires are less in number but not low in quality. They should be
of high moral level. here i use the word "level' which does not belong to
economic level rather it means a good moral level. our desires should be in
favour of our society. They should be sincere, positive, may be exceptional,
eco-friendly.
(c) How To Tackle Sensitive Issues
In morning assembly, Principal sir
was addressing the students. He said- "Dear students, you are the future
of our society, tomorrow the command of our society will be in your hands so let
us understand and try to manage our responsibilities. You need to be
responsible right now. Please those students; raise your hands who consider
themselves capable of solving their domestic and personal problems".
At first some students hesitated then
fourteen hands were raised. So, fourteen students came to the stage. All the
other students clapped for them. After the completion of morning assembly,
principal sir and staff members invited those students to the main office and
explained them about serious issues. Students were told that it is not easy to
handle the sensitive or delicate issues at our own, mainly these sensitive
issues belong to our home, family, personal, any section of society, religion
related talks and language and residential issues. While tackling such issues
selection of vocabulary is very important. Words should be carefully selected,
we should be patient, calm and sensitive towards such issues.
One student told that there is
tension always in their home.... another girl told that in the their
neighborhood one or two boys are passing wrong comments they often use cheap language...
another boy told that some boys used to tease a little boy calling him alien
stranger... another girl told that there are some objectionable relationships
in the people of her street, because of them there was always a quarrell and
fight in their homes.
School counsellor Mr. Khushminder
Singh briefed the students that now you come to know which type of issues are
sensitive and these issues cannot be solved roughly. So they need patience,
tolerance, insight, sensibility, sensitivity, proper knowledge, good language.
we should know the basic reason of the problem and we should listen each and
every person carefully and respectfully with deep insight and common sense we
should take a solid decision keeping in mind the situations all around. We
should not impose a decision on someone. we need to create such atmosphere each
and every person understand and agree with the decision.
We should put ourselves in the
situation in which someone else is facing the situation only then we can judge
his or her problem, situation and offer the better solution for him or her. And
yes, these have sensitive issues should not be thrown open in air and should
not be exposed openly we should keep them secretively.
"Very good sir, we learnt a
lot." All the students were raising the message in common Voice.
"We can get rid of many problems
and can solve family problems, now we can help others to solve the problems
also." "Right sir, the person who takes the right decision at right
time should not feel regretted at any time." concluded the Principal sir.
Q.1. What do you mean
by sensitive issues?
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Q.2. Which points did
the school counselor suggest to solve the sensitive issues?
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Activity
Which Message does
symbolically suggest the concept of fist by school counselor?
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Please write down five
sensitive issues in these five fingers.
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Conclusion
Difficult serious critical sensitive
issues should not be handled and solved in hurry. Please take time to understand
them and find the right solution. Always take advice from a sensible person and
with patience, come to the right decision
(d) Accepting All
Every human being in the world is
different. We are different from each other in many ways, just like that everyone
has a different personality. It is important for mutual respect that we treat
each other in the same way. Acknowledge what their personality is different
relationships are a blessing for us. We often see that the personalities of two
good friends are often different. One speaker and the other listener. In this
way our diversity is complementary to each other. When we accept each other, we
also learn a lot from them. If we think of ourselves as right and others as
wrong, we will be left alone. Friendship is especially important in student
life. Accept the friend in his or her full form. Everyone's reaction to the
same situation is different. When a student is pointed out in the class, one
should understand and make changes in his/ her ways. Someone else gets angry
and deliberately misbehaves, while, someone is completely silent. Our problem
is that we want everyone to change according to us. This is not fair. They
behave differently.
Activity-1
At home Madhu, Mohan,
Mala have siblings, Mother scolded the three of him for not keeping their room
not clean. Tell, what would be their reaction?
Mohan………………………………..
Mala…………………………………..
Madhu……………………………….
The biggest problem in
human life is that we want everyone to follow us, so we want changes in their
behavior according to our wishes. If we accept everyone as they are, most of
our problems will be solved. We all differs in looks and behavior, to0. We
complement each other with our diversity. When we accept diversity, we learn a
lot. If we try to change everyone we will be unhappy and unsuccessful
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