Lesson-8 Problem-Solving
(a) How to manage
(control) Anger?
Restlessness as well as anger is a
state of mind in which one feels very nervous and takes oneself far away from
peace and tranquility. This mental disorder sometimes causes such damage to our
personality that we continue to suffer for a long time. In fact, we get angry
when we don’t get what we want from our surroundings. Sometimes it does not suit
us.
Let’s
learn how to get out of bed in time with the help of a story.
A boy named Robin was very
short-tempered and had a habit of getting frustrated at small things. His
parents, grandparents and younger sister were all tensed because of his
behaviour. One day while he was playing in the park with his friends, he got
angry over something. He left the game and sat down. His friends asked him to
come and play with them but he started abusing them ruthlessly. Everybody tried
his best to make him feel better but he was adamant. They all got tired, and
went to play again but Robin kept on feeling agitated. Suddenly he saw some
dogs who were fighting. A lady came there and distributed some bread among
them. They ate it and started playing. Robin was amazed at how they had been
fighting for so long and now forgot everything. How lovingly they were playing!
He suddenly began to think how stupid he had been for fighting and being so
begrudging for such a long time. He immediately got up and went to his friends
and apologized. He said, "Let's play together."
So,
students what do you learn from this story?
Q.1. Who were bothered
by Robin's habit?
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Q.2. Can Robin's
begrudging behaviour be justified?
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Q.3. Who taught Robin
to control his anger?
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Why is it necessary to control your
anger? We realise our mistakes after ruining everything due to rage. But we
have no idea how to deal with the consequences that arises because of our
instant furious behaviour. You will know about the gruesome effect of anger
after reading this story. In the olden days when students went to the Madrassa
to study, a Maulvi asked the class students if they had any grievances against
anyone in the class. Many students nodded in agreement. Then the Maulvi told
all them to bring a tomato the next day. All of them brought a tomato the
following day. He told them that if anyone had any problem with anyone in the
class, then they should write the name of that person on a paper and wrap a
tomato inside it. He also told them to put it into their respective bags. All
the students performed the task without asking the Maulvi why it was necessary
to put the tomato inside the paper? The Maulvi performed the same task the next
week and asked the students to take out the tomatoes from their bags. When all
the students took them out from their bags, they noticed that all the tomatoes
were squeezed badly. They had a pungent, bad smell. The Maulvi then told them
that their bags had also started smelling because of the rotten tomatoes. Our
minds would also start smelling like that bag if we keep grudges against anyone
and become egoistic. We would have to go through lot of mental breakdown which
would further ruin our personality. All students started looking at their
classmates whom they did not like. They let go of all the misunderstandings and
hugged each other graciously.
Q.1. Students, what did
you learn from this story?
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Q.2. How do you feel
after fighting with anyone?
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These are some suggestions to help you control your anger.
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Always have an
optimistic approach towards everything.
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Read good books.
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Adopt a hobby and spend
time on it.
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Take a long breath and
count till ten.
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Drink water in little
sips.
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Keep reminding yourself
that anger further ruins your mental peace.
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Write down all your
feelings whenever you feel angry.
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Think about the happy
and precious moments of your life that are very close to your heart.
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Think about the times
when you helped someone and vice -versa.
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Share your feelings
with your loved ones.
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Go for a long walk/
long run.
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Stop thinking about the
things that are bothering you.
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Learn to say no and
understand other person's perspective.
Dear students, you will feel far
better after implementing the above techniques in your life. You will notice a
significant change in your behavioural and mental aspects. It is important for
you to know that ignorance and egoism sometimes destroy good relationships. By acquiring
such qualities as humility, we will distance ourselves from these thoughts and develop
our personality in all respects. Then very slowly we will create peaceful, progressive
and happy society. Instead of trying to change others, we will learn to accept
the differences. Our society will become a society of responsible, skilled, and
happy people. Everyone will enjoy his life. Let's do our best to make this world
a better place.
(b) How to manage fear
"Fear" is a feeling of
worrying about any assumed future loss. Suppose you are walking alone on a
deserted road at night. There are bushes on either side of the road. You assume
that there are some people standing around who can hurt you. You pass by the
bushes and see that they are only bushes, not people. You just got scared
irrationally. This example shows that the only thing that scares you is the
fear of losing someone or something. You were afraid of the bushes in the
darkness of night. When you realized that it was nothing but bushes, you
stopped frightening.
Activity-1
The teacher will form four groups
having three students in each group. In this activity, the teacher will say one
letter like *s". The members of the first group will speak the words
starting with the letter "s". Similarly, all the groups will have
their turn. Then the next group will play. The rest of the groups will be out.
Then other letters will be spoken alternately. In this situation, students will
experience the feeling of fear. The students will make a lot of mistakes due to
fear and panic resulting from this task. The same activity will be repeated
again. This time, the students will be given more time to think and speak. All
groups will take their turn for speaking. We will notice that the number of
incorrect words is very less now.
Activity-2
Tomorrow you will have a test of 30
idioms, Math questions or any subject. Only the students who pass this test
will be able to join the school tour. Due to this fear, the result of the
students will be better.
EXERCISE
PART-I
1. Write down your
fears and anxieties in your notebook that bother you all day.
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PART-II
True/False
1. Work hard to reduce
the fear of failure, the fear will go away.
2 Sometimes fear is
also beneficial for us.
3. A soldier accepts
that service to the country is more valuable than his life. He is not afraid of
death during war. In this way fear can be avoided even by knowing more about fear.
4. Fear is very
difficult to control.
5. When you grow up,
all fears disappear by themselves.
Sometimes fear proves to be
beneficial for us as well. Fear also warns us of future dangers. But fear
should not be allowed to dominate on us. To eliminate the fear, understand the
cause of the fear. The fear of feeling disappears if we accept this feeling. So
never run away from a fearful situation with a denial. Rather take it as a
challenge and control it.
(c) How To Find Solution?
Q.1. Dear Student, can
you answer this question; there are five men in a room. One more man enters in
the room and kills four men out of them, now how many men are there in the
room?
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Kindly
write down your anser in the box above.
Read the question thoroughly, two or
three times. This question is much easier, but the answer that strikes our
mind, may not be appropriate. So read again the question. You were not asked about
the number of men. See, can you solve this question or not?
So
required answer should be in form of yes or no.
Required Answer: Yes Or
No
Whatever you have been asked, it is
required to give adequate answers before try to fall into detail or to impress
someone, often cause complication. It may confuse the issue.
So
try to find the solution to the problem by understanding these points:
(1) Understand the
problem well.
(2) Find a solution
with concentration, confidence and patience.
(3) Sometimes there can
be several solutions to a problem, choose the one that is most appropriate.
(4) Find solutions,
based on your problem, resources and circumstances.
Discuss
in class groups and write the best solution, coming out from discussion;
1. After recess, you
find a book was missing in your bag. What will you do?
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2. You reach the school
late. How will you enter in the class?
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Which cup will fill at first?
The solution to the
problem, comes quickly with attention and concentration.
(d) Concentration
Dear Student, there is a great
example in the Mahabharata that Guru Dronacharya set aside the diamond eye of a
bird to test the archery skill of the Kauravas and Pandavas. Only Arjun was
able to hit the target. The Guru asked Arjun how he got the target fulfilled.
He replied that he could only see the eye of the bird. This is called the power
of concentration. Concentration means being completely focused. The fixed state
of our mind is when all our powers are in a fixed position.
Activities to Increase
Concentration
Activity-1
Dear Students, four students will assist me in today's activity.
Interested ones, please come forward.
Take a minute to look at everything
in your class.
Write down all the things you
remember. Now all the four students will count the number of things written by
them.
Dear students, you can see that some
students have written more number of things observed by them than the others.
What can be the reason? It is concentration. The more you concentrate while
looking at things, the more number of things you were able to write.
Activity-2
The teacher will call the whole class
out of the class room. A student will be asked to place 20 items such as ball
pens, erasers, pebbles, scales, keys, chalk, pins, staplers etc. to be placed
on the table in the room.
Then the individual students will be
sent to see those things. Then everything will be removed and the whole class
will be called. Students will now be asked to write or recite these items. This
can be done many times with different things.
Activity-3
The teacher will ask a student to
read five sentences from the text book. They recording will be played and the
students will be asked to listen to the recording carefully. Then they will
recite or write the sentence they have listened. After this, record another
paragraph and listen. This can be done many times to increase concentration.
EXERCISE
1. What is the
importance of concentration in our life?
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2. What will you do to
increase your concentration?
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True/ False
1. A balanced diet,
walks, sound sleep, meditation, etc. are very important to increase concentration.
2. Concentration cannot
be increased.
Summary
Concentration is the
power with which we can get what we want. With concentration we can make life
more energetic and valuable. The work, that we spend a lot of time on, is very quick
and efficient.
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